Worry is a pervasive and and needless habit that many of us struggle with. It blocks us from staying positive and therefore keeping a pure vision of what we want. Worry and the accompanying emotion of fear it brings with it interrupts our dreams, keeping us focused on what we do not want, rather than what we do want. Holding onto fear and worry and thinking we can reach the finish line, or our goal vision, is self-defeating. It’s like running a race, and stopping every few feet, running backwards, spinning around, and at last moving forward a few feet again, only to do the same thing all over again. The finish line stays far out of reach. Fear keeps us stuck. What are we to do with it?

Like everything else in our lives, we must take responsibility for it. There was a time in my life when I realized, in reviewing my life, that I was addicted to worry, and I was addicted to problems. I handled them like a champ, but I always got more to deal with! At one time I thought it was a testament to my strength and I felt a certain pride that I had survived what I did, but I began to feel there really was nothing positive to be said for my strength in enduring this onslaught. As I was starting to envision a future that included peace, freedom and happiness, entertaining worrisome thoughts all the time seemed counterproductive. In truth, I had grown weary of the constant legal issues, life issues, and health issues. So, I finally realized I had to take responsibility for all of that, and in taking responsibility, not only did I realize I brought forth those issues, but that I was addicted to the feelings and thoughts that I entertained because of them.

Addicted sounds like a harsh word, but I think it is accurate. When some problem came up, it’s what I thought of nearly 24/7. If I had waking moments without other critical things to take my mind off it, I was mulling the issue over and over, anticipating different outcomes, pondering solutions, and analyzing every bit of it. I was getting quite good at anticipating possible outcomes, and as a result had handled legal situations quite well in the past. But when you are looking to change your reality into a positive and peaceful one, you don’t need detective or legal skills just to handle life!

At first, I continued to resist the idea that worry was really needless, and still tried to find a good rationale for it. I had spent a good deal of my life doing this. Since I had invested so much time in this activity, I suppose I wanted to believe it was a productive thing to do. So I thought about people I knew who didn’t seem to spend time worrying, curious how it impacted their lives. I realized that they seemed blessed with better fortune or experienced far less disruptions. Now, you might reason that is why they don’t worry, but of course, it’s the other way around!

As I was resistant, I didn’t want to not think about the problem–like any other addict, I wanted to continue with my habit! I thought I could continue to ponder whatever dilemma was going on at the time, and simply choose to not feel fear as a result of the thoughts, as I felt it was the fear that was destructive in creating my newly-formed goals. Then, I realized that thinking the problem situation over and over itself was the problem, as it kept me from being focused on positive things as well as my goal reality. I could try real hard not to feel fear when thinking about the circumstances, but that was challenging anyway. Imagine huge debt, loss of income, lengthy divorce proceedings regarding divorce and child custody, health crises, and bankruptcy court. I had all of these and more.

Few, if any, of us were raised in an environment where we were encouraged to spend time focusing on our goal visions and dreams, particularly in the midst of some crisis, so we can’t blame ourselves for doing absolutely what we were taught to do! Now, I am not suggesting you ignore problems that need to be dealt with, but you don’t need to obsess over them. You arrive at a solution and steps to reach the solution, and be done with it. You take one day at a time, stay positive, and keep your vision in mind!

Focusing on worry and present circumstances can also help to create another problem situation on its heels. I realized I had to be willing to let go of the analysis, the thinking, and the addiction to these problems. Although life had already turned around and many of the issues I mentioned above were in the past, suddenly new ones came up. It was then that I realized I was creating them over and over again. It was clear I was addicted to them. I was also addicted to thinking about them. This seemed to be one of the final pieces that I needed to lay in place to progress in my life.

The realization of all of this was a large part of the solution. Remember, awareness is the key to growth. When we see truth about ourselves, we accept it openly. We acknowledge, take responsibility, and then forgive ourselves for the past. And we release it. Just let it go. Choose to release worrisome thoughts, and choose to think about your positive vision. Just say no to negativity! Say no to fear and worry. When the thoughts come up, affirm the following to yourself: "I willingly release these worrisome thoughts. I do not need to think about this situation. I choose to think happy thoughts." A good deal of mental discipline and re-training will be necessary, as you have been accustomed to this obsessive thinking. It is just like the alcoholic reaching for the drink. In your mind, you need only reach for that thought that is hovering close by! Distracting the mind will help. If you can’t keep your mind busy on something else, try singing, or humming. Play Don’t Worry Be Happy, and sing along, or some other song that distracts your mind and keeps you positive. Remember Hakuna Matata from the Lion King? You can sign up for free to listen to these and other songs. This is an exercise in mental re-training, and it’s no small feat, but it can be done. After some time spent on this exercise, and you won’t have to work at it so hard. Do this until negative or worry thinking is no longer a habit.

Remain vigilant of your thoughts! What do you think about in your free moments? If you find that you choose to think about stressful situations in far greater proportion than is needed to resolve the problem, you need to take some steps to re-train your mind before you are able to move forward with creating your vision. Remember, as within, so without. Keep in your mind peaceful, happy, positive and loving thoughts. Look forward with expectation to fulfilling your dreams!

 

 

 

 

 

A necessary first step in learning how to use the law of attraction to your advantage is to recognize your responsibility in creating your life so far. As you become more fully aware to what degree you shaped your life through past actions and choices, you see that you have control over much of your life experience. When you consciously acknowledge control, you empower change. On the conscious level, you begin to monitor and choose thoughts as well as actions that best serve you. Through the force of law of attraction, these thoughts will manifest positive results and opportunities that will validate the real power of law of attraction.

If you believe that luck, karma, coincidence and chance have created your life, you reduce or remove your power to effect positive change as well as your motivation to do so in any committed way. Recognizing how you’ve shaped your life through your own choices and actions forces you to see how powerful choice really is. You begin to see how often you chose a course, whether or not you realized you had. You need to stop and review your life up to now with an honest and open attitude to recognize just how much influence you have had in shaping your life.

When you arm yourself with this awareness, you begin to see opportunity for choice where previously you did not. You begin to use discernment and guidance to make wiser choices and to take positive action that will move you toward your goals. In this way, you cooperate with universal law to effect productive change.

Your subconscious lays the foundation for a spectrum of choices and conditions. Then your conscious mind, operating within that framework, directed your actions, which brought you your job, your home, and the people with whom you surround yourself. You may have had negative thoughts regarding some of these possible choices, and yet, you still decided, through your own individualized thought process, to take the action that brought about the results you see. Different actions would have produced different results. So we see people from similar backgrounds, even from the same family, achieve widely different results, simply as a result of making different choices.

Mental activity, or thought, on both the conscious and unconscious levels, fuel action. For example, before you took your job, you thought of applying for it. Those thoughts then caused you to act to acquire the job. Your subconscious, or unconscious thoughts, also played a hand in your decision to act. These programs or belief systems instilled long ago fueled thoughts regarding the type of work or career you should choose, the level of income that you receive for your work or where your talents lie that would provide you with income. Consciously you may not agree with that belief system, wanting instead to earn a larger income or choose a different profession, but as long as your core beliefs remain untouched in the subconscious, they have huge influence in your life on many levels.

If you are married, you accepted a marriage proposal or gave it. You consented by spoken word, and took action when you walked down the aisle. Regardless of how much thought you put into it, and admittedly, few people put as much thought into it as they should, you expended mental energy and focused on the result, which caused you to take action. At the same time, your subconscious mind provided material for your conscious thinking, by supplying the thought systems regarding love, marriage, and what type of mate attracted you. You might even have had conscious objections to your current mate, or you might have received instinctive guidance that you did not honor. You were driven by the thoughts contained in your subconscious.

Belief systems, programs and patterns within the subconscious fuel thoughts. Thoughts fuel choices. Choices drive action.

But, the content in your mind becomes critical when you factor in law of attraction, which states that thoughts attract matching events in the outer world. So, all of your thoughts have creative potential, even the ones that don’t give rise to choice or action on your part. Negative beliefs within the subconscious serve to oppose conscious goals, and also, in and of themselves, have the power to create undesirable conditions simply by attracting them. So these subconscious thoughts have much more power than your positive conscious intentions. This is a key point to understanding why you see the results before you.

The subconscious has a very powerful role in creating your life. It serves as judge and jury on every desire that you want to deliberately manifest. Any intentions or thoughts that the subconscious finds to be untrue by virtue of prior learning will simply not manifest. Second, the subconscious forms a basis for your natural conscious thought patterns and choices. You feel comfortable staying within the boundaries the subconscious sets. Your conscious mind can learn to, and should, dismiss any limited or negative thinking that the subconscious, trained by a lifetime of experiences, will want to impose.

Underlying negativity affects your well-being, restricts your freedom of choice, attracts undesirable events, and limits the opportunities that are drawn to you. When you release these negative beliefs and programs, you become empowered to create a positive and healthy reality.

Set your goals and visions in place and act on them. The universe provides opportunity. It is your choices and actions that set events in motion. By working with law of attraction, you will effectively learn how to increase the positive opportunities that come to you and eliminate or reduce unwanted experiences. Evaluate the choices and actions you make on a daily basis. If they contradict your intentions and desires, you need to commit to your own goals. Remain mindful of your thoughts and the tone of your mental environment, and if there are thoughts out of alignment with your vision, dismiss them. Through repetition of positive affirmations and beliefs, you change negative mental habit. Focus and have faith in your vision and support your goals in every way.